Toxic relationships are all around us. We either experience it ourselves, or hear about it from friends and family members. Weaknesses and imbalances in relationships can not only drain our energy, but also leave us exhausted, unhappy and unsatisfied. Many times, people feel trapped and don’t have the strength, courage or willpower to make changes. They become unhappy and lost. I often hear people say “I don’t know who I am anymore”, “When I am with him/her, I turn into a different person”, “I wish my life was different”.   To determine the issues, you need to lean back and truly look at your relationship. Are you the same person as you were 10 years ago, when you met your spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend? We all grow and change.

As a healthcare provider, I come in contact with many patients on a daily basis. Several open their heart to me and trust me with their life experiences. I always have an open ear for my patients, sit back and listen. After many different conversations, I noticed an interesting pattern each of them had in common.

As we progress on our journey through life, we grow mentally, and change our perspective of life, our expectations, and wants and needs. Some grow a lot more then others. As small children, we only have a relationship with our parents and siblings, later on with friends from school until we fall in love and the relationship turns into a romantic connection. As children, we often feel guilty because we didn’t please our parents, or we upset our teachers, or saddened our siblings. Sometimes we got punished, which left us filled with anger. Believe it or not, this anger stayed buried inside our hearts, and turned into a hidden unforgiveness deep inside. Since we cannot physically feel it we become unsatisfied and unhappy. Can you name three people that you met (no matter if it was 20 years ago or 2 weeks ago) you could never forget or forgive for something?

If the person you fell madly in love with turned into a couch potato, a slob, a lazy stinky person, an angry person, a nagging person….or whatever, does that mean you are obligated to stay with that person for the rest of your life, just because 10, 15 or 20 years ago it seemed like the best idea ever? Is your spouse enriching your life or taking away from it? Does your boyfriend make you laugh or cry? Do you feel happy most of the time or sad? Do you feel fulfilled or empty? Is there something missing in your life or are you complete?

The pattern most people in toxic relationships have in common is their lack of self-
love. Why else would you be in a toxic relationship? Self-love is a very important key factor here. Reiki energy will heal yourself; balance your chakras and your body. It will help you to find your true self and give you back your self-love so you can actually be in a loving relationship. Reiki energy will help you to heal your heart from this pile of un-forgiveness, delete the messages of the past and open it back up to strengthen you.

Reiki energy will help you to determine the issues you need to work on to heal yourself, your heart and your soul. How else can you be in a happy relationship? You can only heal a relationship if you heal yourself first.

Love yourself and be in love with yourself. Accept yourself. Don’t you deserve better? Don’t you want a better life, filled with laughter and love?

Wishing you peace and love!